## North Carolina Early Learning and Development Progressions: Birth to Five

#### Domain: NC Foundations for Early Learning: Emotional and Social Development (ESD)

#### Subdomain: Learning About Feelings

#### Goal: Children identify, manage, and express their feelings.

#### Skill Progression: Self-control

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List of Skills by Age

1-2 Months

Calms with holding, rocking, and adult talking softly

2-4 Months

Demonstrates self-calming by sucking on fist or thumb

4-6 Months

Resists unwanted actions or objects with expressions of disgust or anger

6-8 Months

Beginning to learn the meaning of “no,” stops action briefly then continues

8-10 Months

Looks to adult when admonished, but continues actions, may crawl to adult for comforting

10-12 Months

Understands “no” and obeys requests

12-15 Months

Throws temper tantrums to get own way

15-18 Months

Seeks out adult for comfort, but beginning to self-calm

18-21 Months

Recognizes “wrong” and engages in self-tattling (i.e. says “No, no” while doing wrong action)

21-24 Months

Demonstrates frequent tantrums but tries to self- calm

24-27 Months

Acts out to gain independence from adult’s rules and control, aggression and anger increase

27-30 Months

Delays gratification for wants or for reward

30-33 Months

Asks for help or redirects self to another activity if frustrated

33-36 Months

Talks about own needs and emotions as a means of self-control

36-42 Months

Accepts the consequences of own actions

42-48 Months

Internalizes rules about “do’s” and “don’ts” and “right” and “wrong”

48-54 Months

Asks permission to use others’ possessions

54-60 Months

Judges right and wrong by what gets punished, refrains from actions that get punished

North Carolina Department of Public Instruction, 2015

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